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Steven Kalas
Join the dialogue! Thinking Human Matters is for people who enjoy digging deeply into the human experience, for people who have the courage to examine themselves and the culture around them. Love, marriage, sexuality, child-rearing, work, play, religion, art, psychology, science, conflict and the hope for reconcilation -- Steven Kalas coaxes the important human questions out of life, whether from everyday events around us or from global breaking news.

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Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Apr. 26, 2011 at 7:00 AM
I just want to know what your suggestion is and if there are any books I can read about dating a Marine officer. My boyfriend has been gone for a week for Officer Candidate School, and I won't see him for nine weeks. Then he has to move to Virginia...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Apr. 19, 2011 at 7:00 AM
I have been fantasizing about telling my husband that I no longer love him and want to leave him. I am not involved with anyone and have never been outside of my marriage. Recently, a man at work showed interest in me and my response caught me by...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Apr. 12, 2011 at 2:20 PM
For the last year I have been seeing my ex from 15 years ago. She is married with three kids. I am also married but (am separated). We both have not had the funds to get a divorce, especially her because hers is going to cost a lot, because she...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Apr. 05, 2011 at 7:00 AM
I was certain that it took one person to ruin a relationship and that it takes two committed people to make it work. Then I saw Harville Hendrix say the opposite in the attached link: www.harvillehendrix.com/watch.html. What's your take? It seems...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Mar. 29, 2011 at 9:59 AM
I'm a divorced dad with a 14-year-old son, and just (went) through an almost six-year divorce and custody fight. At the end, (the) court agreed that all the false accusations and stalling were not the best for our son and found for myself, the...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Mar. 22, 2011 at 7:00 AM
What does one make of a guy who states/does the following: I was told the next time I bring up a subject, he will slap my face. He told me that until my son moves out, he will be mean to me, will not be affectionate and will not have any relations...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Mar. 15, 2011 at 7:00 AM
I just finished an intense relationship with a man. Problems occurred in the sexual realm of our relationship (of course, in other areas also, as the spillover works both ways). After being in the singles scene for many years since my divorce,...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Mar. 08, 2011 at 7:00 AM
I am having a huge issue in my relationship and for the first time in my life I have no idea what to do. I am 40 years old, and my boyfriend is 31. That may be part of the problem, but I'm leaning more toward maybe it is just the way he is, and...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Thursday, Mar. 03, 2011 at 2:48 PM
I'm a retired professional, middle-aged woman, divorced, with children and grandchildren -- a close family. I have battled weight for the last 30 years with yo-yo dieting and virtually no success in my attempts to slim down. At the same time, I have...
Posted by Janet Murphy
Tuesday, Feb. 22, 2011 at 7:00 AM
I've heard this too many times regarding my marriage: Yes, I'm responsible for looking out for my own happiness, but my wife is supposed to be part of it. Anyway, I was wondering if discussing the boundaries of our responsibilities for our own...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Feb. 15, 2011 at 7:00 AM
What are your beliefs and knowledge (regarding) a divorced nuclear family involved in parental alienation? Should we struggle with continuous court battles because of the other parent's personal motives? -- F., Las Vegas Actually, the first thing I...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Feb. 08, 2011 at 7:00 AM
What message do you give your kids on Father's Day if Dad is not home? Maybe he's unknown, for kids adopted by a single mom. Maybe he's absent with no explanation, or because of domestic abuse or substance abuse. And then a teacher unknowingly has...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Feb. 01, 2011 at 7:15 AM
I read your (View) article today over a cup of coffee and almost spit it out with the line "In the Hebrew creation myth ...." We both know that it is not myth -- why say it? The Bible is not myth! I looked up the definition of...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Jan. 25, 2011 at 7:00 AM
So, your beloved is talking to you in passing. Something in the word choice or presentation strikes you ... badly. Wrong. Like you've been dismissed. Or scolded. Reproved. Even smacked across the face. You have the experience of being criticized or...
Posted by Steven Kalas
Tuesday, Jan. 18, 2011 at 7:00 AM
This one has been a difficult problem in our 60-year marriage and still comes up at times. I take spoken words literally where my wife means them figuratively most of the time. In anger people may say, "I want to kill you!" or "Why...
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